Yep. I hear you. I'm 3 years into Alexa and will not be buying any more devices. I already have tons of bulbs, plugs, light switches and when there is a fail and it requires me to set ieverything up a 4th time, then I will start migrating to another smart home solution.
I love it when it works but when it doesn't or 'loses' some devices and re-adds them as generic devices, it is a pain to fix everything back.
It.Should.Just.Work